Blogging vs Facebook/Twitter

It has been a long while since I have wanted to blog. But I have found a reason to come back to this format. I have spent a lot of time on Social Media like Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. I think that it is a wonderful place to share friendships and family relationships and celebrating life.

However, I have found it a toxic environment for discussion of Politics of any sort. If you value your family and friends above your opinions, I suggest leaving the social media format and move back to blogging. I want very much to “voice” my opinion, but not at the expense of my relationships. So I have come back to blogging as a place to put my voice on subjects of a political nature.

I think that this is where I can speak my truth.

I think this is where I can speak about my rage when I want to. The fact that I do not feel comfortable speaking my truth outloud without upsetting people I care about on Social Media is crazy, but I have lost relationships over this. So I have to be careful not to go there. If I do, some friends and family pounce on me with their opposition and to some extremes, unfriend me or argue to the point of uncontrolled anger.

My nephew J called me recently and wanted to engage me in discussion. He even asked me who I was leaning toward in the next election. Really? We are polar opposites in our beliefs. Why would I even consider going down that path with him. It is none of his business who I would vote for. I would definitely not discuss this with him on social media. I am not interested in debate. I have my own thoughts, I do not need theirs…and they don’t really want mine.

There is no real way on social media to find common ground. That is not what people do. They argue relentlessly back and forth, tit for tat, trying to one-up each other, there is no such thing as compromise. There is only making your own point.

And in an effort to be transparent, I am just as dug in on my point of view as they are with theirs. I don’t want to hear the other side. I want to give voice to MY TRUTH. So here I am, back on my blog where it is permissible to say exactly what I want to say and not have to defend my feelings or opinions. My opinions are my own. Feelings come from the heart. The heart knows what the heart knows.

That is all.


Missed Writing

I have missed writing in my blog. This is my life, I get on these tangents. As my world keeps turning, I go down different paths for a while, like spokes on a wheel. Blogging and selfies are today’s journals and diaries of yesterday. People have always needed to record in some manner the things that we experience. Maybe it is just a way for us to self-check and find meaning for ourselves. I find my thoughts are whirling and swirling in many directions.

Today for me, I was reminded how much I miss this because my friend Erika, did her “thing” today. It was so refreshing it made me miss writing my blog. I haven’t updated with a post since 2015 Aaaaaaccccckkkkk!!!!! So why not plop down and meander through my messy head.

It is summer 2017, I am on vacation. I haven’t gone anywhere, just simply stopped working for the time being. That is a perk for working at an elementary school. You get to periodically just stop working and vacate your office full of paperwork and never-ending mindless little tasks that when all put together, give you meaning in life. I actually love my job and the people I work with. So come August when we are all back together again, it will be a celebration. These people become family.

In the meantime, I have had some very memorable real family experiences with the 2017 version of the Chin Reunion (my mother’s family). A truly amazing 3-day get-together. My mom is one of 18 children and there are now 5 of generation one remaining (four of them were able to attend.) But we cousins (generation two) and our children (generation three) put on a great reunion and we aim to keep generation four knowing and loving each other to keep this going. At some point they will “need to want to do this” and believe in their hearts that family is worth it. This is us (or at least about 2/3 of us.) Click photo for a better view.

Ugh! Politics and Religion!

Can I hate Politics and Religion more?

I doubt it.

It has caused more riff in my family and I won’t have it. ANYMORE!

I usually enjoy social media, but I don’t anymore. You cannot say anything that you believe and hold as your own opinion without being attacked…by friends and family, the people you most care about.

This is the biggest problem with Social media. People openly state there opinions (myself included) without regard for how it affects those they love. Now if I were in the same room with my family and friends, I would never push their buttons like that. Purposely, when you already know the outcome. Why would I set the room on fire burning bridges and relationships like it didn’t matter.

Well it does.

The people I love and care about mean more to me than their stupid opinions or my own. We do have stupid opinions, we do. At least someone else thinks your thoughts are “crap” and they tell you so. They use social media like it is their own personal debate event.

It’s not.

When you go to someone else’s wall or space, you are entering their own personal space. You need to remember to respect their opinion and leave it at that. You are more than welcome to (instead of commenting on their page to start a flame war) share the discussion on your own page to state your own differing opinion. Then it becomes your own and I will respect your space and opinion as your own. You will never find me starting shit on your wall.

If you come to my wall or space, and make a comment that starts a flame war, I will delete your comment. If you think this is stupid too, well that is too bad. Your need to vent all over me and my opinion is not up for debate. You will not be allowed.

I won’t be childish and unfriend you (unless I’m just not that into you). I won’t unfollow you. I will respect you and your opinion, if you keep your dissenting opinions to yourself and your own space/wall.

If you disrespect others so much that you don’t care who’s feelings you hurt as long as you have your say, then I will lose respect for you.

One of my favorite cousins, teaches all to be kind. I will use that standard (Is what I am about to do or say…kind?) as much as possible. I am not perfect, but I will keep trying.